i get weirded out every time i remember celebration is a real place
im so gay for josh
also i’ve figured out some of my intrusive thoughts include my hatred of my mom lmao
She waits, and she listens.
my new favorite pup
i miss my dog boyfriend
The Chinese landscape painter ZHANG BU was born in 1934 He started as a newspaper editor and became, over the years, one of the best known painters of this genre.
in most situations though, when people are turned off by certain genitalia it’s because of internalized cissexism that they need to examine + then eliminate
and i know that’s not 100% of cases bc i have trouble interacting w most vaginas due to compulsions (i have OCD) regarding bodily fluids
but usually it’s cissexism i can promise u
the thing about monosexuality is that i don’t understand how it can exist without some form of cissexism attached to it. if you understand that gender is simply a system of identity and not something that can tell you anything about what a person looks like, how can gender possibly dictate who you’re attracted to???
like i’m pretty sure that we’re all on the same page that defining who you’re attracted to by genitals is cissexist
but any physical traits that you use to define what you’re attracted to in a certain gender surely don’t apply to all members of that gender, and surely there are people of another gender who have those traits. it extends beyond “i like girls because they have boobs” and “i like boys because i like their dicks”. liking girls because they have long hair is innacurate because lots of girls have short hair, and plenty of boys have long hair, and plenty of nonbinary people have long hair too.
i can understand dating preferences based on gender. not wanting to date men/boys because they’re been socially conditioned to be more violent, hostile, abusive, etc. is perfectly understandable. but from a strictly physical, attraction based standpoint, it seems impossible to me to be attracted to only one gender without being transphobic and binarist.
if you’re cis you very damn well should defend trans people because there are many situations we cannot defend ourselves out of fear for our safety where you will not be in that same danger
yes. defending trans people is very different than talking over them!! i don’t know if i have the words to explain the difference but. cis people supporting/defending trans people is very important. however offering your opinion on trans issues/critiquing trans stuff is Bad. if that makes sense
i mean if you’re cis you have cis privilege which means a lot of times unless someone says something like “i think trans people are awful” you don’t always pick up on transphobia
and my best advice for cis people who don’t want to be transphobic or say transphobic things (because if something is interpreted as transphobic, it probably is, no matter your intent) is to shut up on trans issues. i’m sorry if it sounds harsh but it’s true. cis people can never be as educated on trans issues as trans people. and they also have privilege over them + will get more attention for speaking on trans issues than trans people.
friendly reminder that guilting someone into having sex with you to prove that they aren’t a bigot is gross manipulative coercion and also you’re a fucking rapist.
there’s a difference between guilting someone into having sex with you to “prove they aren’t a bigot” and telling cis monosexuals they need to examine why they won’t have sex with trans people that are the gender they’re attracted to, and i’ve never seen anyone do the first one
MICHAEL CINCO Couture Fall 2013
Alright tumblr fam! Here we go!
I have 14 days to raise $8,500 for top surgery. I can’t do this without your help and I really appreciate anything you can give! I’ve also created tons of fun perks (like handmade stationary sets! and zines!) which you can claim on my donation page right here:
For those of you who don’t know me yet, here’s a little more information!
Hey lovelies! I’m Myles and I’m a fem transsexual man hoping to have top surgery in March. Because of the unexpectedly early surgery date, I’m now rushing to fundraise and could really use your help. This procedure is both life-saving and life-changing for me, so please donate if you can! Every little bit helps and I am so deeply grateful for anything you can give.
Being “visibly trans” has made it very difficult to get and maintain jobs. I’ve been let go from two jobs already for being trans, and I currently work two jobs just to cover my rent. I’ve tried hard to save money for surgery and I managed to scrape together the $500 deposit the surgeon requires. But the $8,320 price tag for this surgery is way out of my range.
I’ve struggled with dysphoria for a long time, finding myself in psychiatric programs because of the depression and anxiety it’s caused me, and I’ve been blessed to find so much relief since starting hormones. Recognizing myself in the mirror for the first time is an incredible experience.
But I am still struggling everyday with having large breasts. I bound my chest for years, causing myself severe back pain. Now I walk around in the world with my unbound chest and receive stares, harassment, and threats of violence nearly everywhere I go. This surgery will help me to feel safe in public and at home in my own body.
I know it’s super cheesy but I feel like I’ve been in a little cocoon all through my transition. For me this surgery is going to help me burst out of my cocoon and finally see my wonderful butterfly self reflected in the mirror! Please help me make this a reality by donating and by sharing this campaign far and wide!
Thx for reading, you are all angels <3 <3 <3
We’re so so close! Just 3 days and $1,100 left!